How to kick-start your life after you’ve made a terrible call and ended $50,000 or more in debt? How to snap out of your current fucked up state of mind, regain lost self-confidence and start providing for your family again? How to keep your marriage alive now when everything went down the drain?
By going through the 6 levels or the 6 steps of the self-confidence recovery process in a precise sequence.
Step 1 – Acceptance
You fucked it up. Nothing you can do about it and bitching and killing yourself in alcohol sure as hell won’t change that fact or help you in any way.
Accept your deeds and start analyzing them instead of staring in emptiness. Snap out of it and use your analytical part of the brain once more. You did it before, you’ll do it again.
Only this time you have something solid and tangible to analyze.
You tried it thus; you’ve experienced it, ergo you know now.
Because you can only truly know what you’ve experienced.
Theory and assumptions have led you to your current situation.
This time it’s different. You have a unique opportunity to analyze your every step and see what has to be done differently this time.
But this is only possible to do efficiently AFTER you accept the fact that it was you who made the mistake.
Step 2 – Self-Reflection (the WHY)
One of the reasons for your fall was the fact that you didn’t really know where you’re going. You weren’t aware of why you’re doing what you did.
In other words, you failed to understand why certain things function the way they do.
But above all, you failed to set the tangible and understandable vision and goals for yourself.
So why did you do it? Why did you decide to embark on that adventure?
Most likely to make more money in order to live a happy, independent and abundant life.
That’s the most common ‘why’.
But your every action leading to that ‘why’ has to be understood. Thus, think why you’ve acted and reacted the way you did in your previous attempt to earn your freedom.
Once you’re done with it, set up 10 goals and understand the importance of each by understanding the true reasons behind them. In other words, understand why exactly do you want to achieve something.
When you determine and define the reasons, analyze the plans upon which you’re planning to reach those goals.
Understand that the only way to build wealth and ultimate abundance is to transfer your vision to people. People are those elements that will eventually put money in your pocket.
For them to do that, they have to know WHY are they doing that. For that to happen, you have to know ‘why’.
Step 3 – The Power of Will
Make no mistakes; you can train your willpower the same way you train your muscles and endurance. It’s even easier.
Willpower needs a single exercise while muscles and endurance enhancements demand the entire array.
Understand that by strengthening the power of will in one segment of your life (mastering the money management, for example, or building up the muscles), you’re triggering the Domino effect and improving every segment of your life.
Step 4 – Habiting
You have to rewrite your matrix – your obsolete and wrong belief system. There is no other way around because it will mess with your execution and seriously reduce your success.
Step 5 – Planning
- You’ve accepted.
- You’ve understood.
- You’ve improved the power of will to become more disciplined and remain persistent.
- You’ve implemented just the right set of habits.
Now you need to develop a business plan. Probably the one thing you did poorly the last time you tried.
As the rule of thumb, 50% of all businesses shut down their operations within 2 years because of the poorly developed business plan. Don’t make that same mistake.
Step 6 – Executing
Everything is a theory until you execute your plan.
Many people freeze at this moment and start delaying their plans. Until they grow some goddam ballz, somebody beat them to it.
On the other hand, you have people who developed brilliant plans and then deviated entirely from them which inevitably lead to total collapse.
Play it smartly. Once you develop a good business plan, execute it without deviating much from it.
Remember: mistakes are the only way we learn. It took 5492 drops on your butt before you learned to walk. Did you bitch about it back then? Don’t be afraid to try again and again and again if you have to. It’s how it’s done.