When you observe the adultery as the consequence and not the reason for failed marriage than there’s a slight chance that one night stand or secret passionate relationship with your sexy co-worker can in fact result in something greater than you originally had.
Adultery is wrongly perceived as the cause of the divorce
The real cause is imbalance or the over compromising of one partner in relationship whereas adultery is just an expression of dissatisfaction with that fact and certain getaway or even pursuit for long lost passion.
Because, in order for the relationship to be tasty, passion is the most important ingredient in the recipe. So, if there’s no equilibrium in compromising, the party that is forced to give way more than he or she is receiving, will eventually start resenting the partner.
This situation will open otherwise closed access for third parties. It’s actually quite fascinating how we can sense that someone is not entirely happy with the marriage. To make things even better, we’ll start behaving like ultimate predators, which, after spotting the weakness, are engaging with the decisive and rather brutal force.
You know this because if someone would ask you to pinpoint the people in your, let’s say, professional environment, who are most likely to be opened for the “alternative”, you’ll have no problem naming them all.
And the only reason why you can sense it is due to your innate ability to subconsciously recognize facial and other body signs of sexually frustrated person. Because, it’s who that person really is since sex is the determining factor of every relationship. It’s either deal maker or deal breaker.
Of course, people can force themselves to certain loyalty even if their sex life sucks but that’s just because they are afraid of public condemnation due to our common moral standards. But given the opportunity (when nobody looks for example), and your tongue will find the way in her mouth. She won’t mind at all. You just have to be tactical about it.
But if you’re willing to slip her your tongue, that indicates your own sexual dissatisfaction and marital frustration
It’s not like you’re driven by some animal instincts that are forcing you to hump every goddamn leg on your way. We are advanced creatures, perfectly capable of overriding our primitive urges. In fact, we are one of those few rare species that do value monogamy.
Thus, in case you can’t get her ass out of your mind and can frequently catch yourself plotting how to fuck her brains out, it means that something isn’t right at home.
But before you start cheering yourself, consider this: if you feel deprived from sex, your wife feels exactly the same. And same as you’re plotting to slip your tongue down that woman’s throat, same way some dude is plotting the same shit but with your wife on his mind.
Then again, it may just be for the better
Because, who can tell that you two are just the perfect match? Maybe your love was simply short termed and there’s someone waiting for both of you. You know, kids grow up, you have some specific goals on your mind that present certain conflict of interest with your wife’s desires and habits, so you start thinking like that there has to be something better for you.
And you may be right.
I recently spoke to a woman who was “the second woman” for a year but eventually, man came clean about the whole thing to his wife, explaining her how he fell in love with another woman. Surprisingly or not, wife showed little to none negative emotions to his confession so they divorced quite peacefully.
It appears that lady had similar agendas on her mind because, now, 14 years later, both of them are in happy relationships. Man found his new fortune between the legs of his former mistress and man’s ex-wife found herself a young treat – 10 years younger fellow!
When you think about this entire subject, it might be wise to follow the signals of the other party and if you notice suspicious behavior, maybe it’s time for you two to have a nice, long talk. Wear the bulletproof west just in case she’s carrying concealed weapon that you know nothing about. Because, who says that she’ll welcome this sudden change, right?