Confidence…some of us exude it with ease and some of us don’t. Actually, that’s utter and complete BS! No one is born with 100 percent confidence. There will always be some area in your life that you’re kind of unsure about, and that’s totally normal. While some do a better job at hiding their insecurities than others, just know you’re not alone. Lucky for you, there are things you can do to safely boost your confidence, but it ain’t gonna be a walk in the park. Ready to find out how to build your confidence and keep it up for good? Read on.
Eliminate Negative Self-Talk
Seriously, we can be our own worst enemies you guys. You could have started out having the best day ever. Everyone was hi-fiving you and telling you how awesome you were. And then…BAM. Maybe you were hit with some bad news, or you screwed up at work, or someone you really respected made a negative remark towards you. Now you’re on a down whirl spiral of icky mind chatter. “They’re right, I suck” “I’ll never be good enough” “Why do I even bother” and so on, and so on. I’m sure you’ve read books like The Secret, which tells you, you have to think positive thoughts all day long. And as much as I hate to admit it, it’s true. Of course let’s be real, it’s impossible to be happy and positive all day long. But try to get as close as possible. If you’ve spent 15 minutes listening to positive affirmations, but then spend the rest of the day bashing yourself with negativity, it pretty much cancels out any good work you’ve done. So focus on drop kicking those negative thoughts on their ass ASAP, by…any…means…necessary.
From this point forward, eliminate the competitive mindset, when it comes to others. The only person you should be competing against is yourself. You will set yourself up for failure if you’re constantly comparing So and So’s success to yours. You have no idea what that person’s journey has been, how hard they worked, or even if you want the life that they have. Besides, sometimes things aren’t always as they seem. The person who appears the most confident, and accomplishing the most in their professional life, could be an utter and told “f” up at home. If you must, use some people for inspiration. But don’t use another’s person’s life as the barometer for life success. Why would you want to be something you’re not anyways? Besides, it’s exhausting! You need to use your energy to be a rockstar!
Watch What You Eat
I hate to get all woo woo on you, but well…I am. There’s energy in food. Certain foods can actually affect your mood and make you seriously depressed. If you’ve been feeling particularly down, then you might want to consider making a food journal. Write down what you eat everyday and how you feel afterwards. If you notice dairy is making you cranky, then dairy might have to make an exit out of your life. Processed foods, high carb, high sugar, alcohol and even some meats can change your whole entire mood. So be picky when it comes to what you put in your body. After all, we are what we eat. And this should go without saying, but definitely, definitely eliminate the use of drugs if you want to feel all happy and stuff. Drugs have never done anybody any favors.
Work On Your Weaknesses
The only thing that stands between you and the confident guy, is the confident guy’s preparedness. Oftentimes we start to feel insecure about ourselves when things in our life aren’t where we’d like them to be. Take an inventory over your life. Where in your life are you happy and what areas in your life could use some improvement? Is it your health? Is your relationship? Is it your job? Whatever it is, make it your mission to put all of your effort into improving it. Think about it. If you’re unhappy about the way you look and it’s affecting your confidence, wouldn’t the obvious thing be to change it? Go to a gym, get plastic surgery. Just do something and stop complaining about it. Don’t have much luck with women? Well that may require you to step out of your comfort zone. Hire a coach, practice talking with strangers, date online, if in person isn’t your thing. But just do something.
Set Achievable Goals
If there’s something you want to do, but you don’t believe you can do it, I’d advise you to work on setting a small goal that’s focused on getting you closer to achieving the bigger goal. Big goals can be intimidating, especially if it’s for something that seems out of reach. Let’s say you want you want to start your own business. You’re feeling not that confident about it because it’s in an industry you don’t know much about. Well, you can’t do anything about the fact that you don’t have prior experience, but you can take baby steps towards gaining more. Take a class about your industry, acquire a business license, ask to take an industry colleague out to lunch and pick their brain, start out with just one client as opposed to 100. All these things are small but attainable. Once you accomplish the smaller actions, it will help you to develop more and more confidence.
Whoever says “I’m always confident” is lying. It’s okay to feel unsure or insecure. The most important thing is that you work on pushing past the fear. Confidence is a trait that needs to be fine-tuned and finessed. Confidence can get you a lot of things, a better quality woman, a better job, and better treatment overall. But just make sure you’re doing this for you, and no one else. Come on, I believe in you rockstar. Now go out there and get some confidence!