We’ve all seen the porn videos of some hot, busty teacher giving a kid detention – which results in some hot kinky sex, amazing blow jobs … and of course, an ‘A’ for the course in question. But how do you get to that point? How can you bring in make-believe into your sex life – without having to explain why you want to do it?
Here’s how you can bring role playing into your bedroom – without sounding like a creepy guy:
Remember that it’s only pretend
Many times, people have an issue learning to separate what’s real and what’s going on in the role play – which can lead to conflict in the relationship if it’s not handled properly. If you’re approaching the subject with your partner, make sure you set guidelines and rules about it. For instance, are you going to go out to a bar and have him pretend to be someone he’s not? Are there rules with flirting with others while you’re playing? Make sure you discuss any “hot” topics ahead of time – so it doesn’t end badly due to a miscommunication.
Have fun with it and relax
It’s important to remember that role playing is just another form of pretend (remember when you were a kid and played cops and robbers?) so don’t sweat if things don’t go according to plan. While it sounds like a fun idea, sometimes it’s hard for people to “stay in character” when they’re in the bedroom. If that seems to be the direction when you’re trying to play, let it go and learn to roll with the flow.
Start small before going to extreme
Diving into a full roll playing session is like jumping into an ocean before learning how to swim. Costumes, props and other items can add up quickly so make sure you check out whether you’re both into it before spending the money on items that can’t be returned. If you’re not sure how to proceed, start by playing out a “sugar daddy” scenario and work up to the more elaborate plots. Likewise,
Be honest with your fantasies
Let’s assume for a moment that you’re hiding a huge fantasy you have with your partner; how will that become a reality if you’re afraid to admit what that is? Chances are, you’re with your partner for more than one reason – if you’re looking to act on your fantasy at some point in your life, you need to be honest about what drives you crazy – so it can become incorporated into your roll playing. Make sure, however; the options go both ways – even if you’re not crazy about her ideas.