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Self-esteem – How to not overdo it

Written by Hope Stewart

“The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself”-

Mark Twain

I’m sure, that by this time, everybody has realized that life can be an unpredictable roller coaster.

When the ride starts to get bumpy and scary, you’ll eventually start doubting in your ability to hold on to the seat for the rest of the ride. In such cases, you need to have high self-esteem, as that leads to high self-confidence.

Self-esteem is generally your perception of who you are and what capabilities you possess. If you regard yourself highly, you are bound to have a boost in self-confidence.

However, these days self-esteem depends more on what other people think, than what we think of ourselves. A person with high self-esteem is comfortable in whatever skin they were, and is not afraid to speak up for what they believe in.

If you see a more vivid and self-confident reflection, every time you look in the mirror, you will find yourself skimming through life with relative ease. You can face any adversity, without the fear of the unknown, because you have the sharp sword of confidence at your defense.

However, you have to be careful while wielding this sword, as it often tends to be double edged- the ice between being self-confident and turning into egomaniac is very thin. There are some important things that you will need to keep in mind while developing the proper amount of self-confidence.

You should always find a way to articulate your views but you also have to learn how to accept disagreement. Sometimes, a lot can be learned by simply agreeing to disagree. Your views should be sacred to you, and you should live by them instead of what society deems perfect. However, perfection is a matter of perception. What is right to you may not be right to someone else. So, even if you are supposed to believe in yourself, don’t become so confident that you say “my way is the right way”. Accepting other people’s view with positivity will help you to grow your self-esteem in the right way.

I believe that being able to accept ones mistake is a great virtue. When proven wrong, you should not act stubborn and demand that you are right. You are only human, and humans are bound to make mistakes. You will be a better human if you accept your mistakes, learn from it, and then move on.

Make a paper plane right now. Sounds a bit weird? Just do it. Throw it into the air see how far it flies. Make more and see how far they fly too. At the end of this experiment, you will realize that each paper plane flies a different distance. I guess the lesson you can learn from this experiment is that, not everyone has the same capabilities, and not everyone can reach the same heights. To be able to develop high self-esteem, you must first be able to realize your true self, and accept all your strengths and weaknesses, your virtues and vices

You are not perfect, neither am I. We all have our own issues that we need to tackle. So if you want to develop the right amount of self-esteem, you should keep in mind that you cannot be the very best in everything, and there will always be someone better. Your aim should always be, to be the very best YOU can be, and be satisfied with it.

A lot of people set their goals so high that it becomes unachievable. When you can’t achieve what you worked hard for and what you wanted to achieve, you become disappointed, and hence you lose confidence in yourself. You start doubting your abilities, and that lowers your self-esteem. What you have to do to avoid such scenarios, is to play your strengths. If you know that you are better at dancing than you are at singing, then aim higher as a dancer than as a singer.

If you keep all the above things in mind, then you will probably be able to develop just the right amount of self-confidence that you need!

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Hope Stewart