Brace yourself; this will hurt: NO! She gets sick and would rather cry. But, she puts her “I love you” face on, suck it up and invest a tremendous amount of energy to pretend how she genuinely enjoys.
In some instances, when the entire situation went too far, she will, in fact, cry because there will be no willpower left inside of her to suppress the feeling that can only be described as rape!
How’s that for a fact sport?
Is this behavior something reserved for only a specific group of women?
She can, in fact, go 3-5 months without sex and you won’t notice any difference. She’ll remain the nagging bitch who always has a problem with something you’ve done or failed to do.
We have conducted a short and sweet survey, that included 1,562 women, on all 6 continents. Every surveyed woman has been in a marriage for more than 5 years. All have children. And all have husbands that spend at least 9 hours at their jobs. Some of them have jobs, while some are stay-at-home moms.
Not one has claimed the opposite from what you’ve heard just now. Without exceptions, each and every of the surveyed women, states that she can go without sex for an extended period of time. In fact, she prefers to be left alone and not engaged in any way because, while she can, in fact fake it, there are instances when she can hardly suppress her tears.
Does that mean that all married women become asexual after a while?
Another simple: NO! She’s just not into you, that’s all. It doesn’t leave her immune to other men. It’s just the fact that she has successfully shed every last drop of passion for you.
You became a habit. More like a brother than a passionate lover. And who wants to have sex with a brother, right?
But other men are not perceived that way.
So give her some room (distance yourself on account of professional occupation) and act like a caveman, and don’t be surprised when she packs her bags (or yours for that matter) and break the entire deal.
If you behave like a gentleman, helping her out with daily errands and chores, making sure that the toilet lid is always down, taking care of the dishes from time to time and even cook from time to time, then no other man will be able to penetrate her defense.
Don’t forget: she’s a nester and you are provided with everything that makes nest the nest.
Well then, does it mean that you’ll never regain the passion; ever again?
If she’s someone with the temper (which one isn’t, right?), who knows exactly what she wants and how she wants it, you’ll hear from her. It won’t be a pleasant experience, but on a long run, this is a far better situation than the one with the woman who’s silent.
Because, the one who’ll have no problem kicking you away and speak her mind about it, will “help herself” reach the orgasm. She’ll most likely find one and the same “modus” or the way of having sex, which will appear as the boring routine to you. At the same time, this is the thing that has the potential to trigger the multiple orgasms at her, even after 20 years of marriage.
Furthermore, she’ll push your head down from time to time and finish herself off in times when you didn’t surpass the 1 minute of active sex. It will occur at the same moment of your orgasm if you move away (coitus interruptus type of contraception or the method of stopping, pulling out and fucking up the sheets, which subsequently triggers the volcanic reaction, if you messed up her side of the bed).
But the ones that are silent and hard to penetrate (in mind you pervert), those are the trouble makers.
She doesn’t know how to help herself. So she’ll pretend to some extent. But keep behaving like an animal and you can bet your ass that she’ll cry while you’re “making love” to her.
That “animal” behavior is when you’ll satisfy your needs, even though it’s clear that she’s not in the mood. Not even the God himself could turn her on in those moments. Yet, against all logic, you’ll go in, after she moves sideways, just to get you of her back.
So, is there something you can do to keep that fire going?
That’s the first thing you must have in mind after being couple of years in marriage. If you two are living in some urban center, that dynamics mostly revolves around money and financial stability.
Money is perceived as the safety feature. It allows her nest improved stability.
Thus, more money you make, more passionate she gets.
Money won’t do the trick on its own.
The dynamics will. In other words, you need to use that money in a proper way. That includes, but not limited to, taking her away from time to time to some place where nobody knows you and where there are no familiar faces.
You don’t plan. You just take her away.
Or, you go shopping with her. You don’t just sit in the bar. You actively engage in choosing just the right shirt.
Remember: vacation with kids is fine and necessary. But it won’t solve your main problem. Vacation alone, on the other hand, is what will reignite that fire. It’s a new environment that stimulates your brains in a positive way, triggering all sorts of neurotransmitters, creating a fertile ground for sexual excitement.
Then again, you can have all the money in the world, and you can take her places once a month, but fail to introduce the necessary equilibrium in your daily house routine, nothing will help.
It’s that part we were mentioning earlier about helping her out with the house chores.
Yeah, cook some meal, it will do wonders for you since we are talking about creative work, you made with your own brain and hands. If nothing else, it will further develop your brain because you’re creating something new, over and over again.
As the rule of thumb, men who cook good few times a week, and bring morning coffee in her bed, have devoted wives who are more likely to have consensual, passionate sex with them at least once a month, and less likely to cheat on them!
Others are risking their marriages and in some rare instances, even their own lives, if they act like primitive animals, living in a dogma of the superior man (patriarch) and inferior woman (practically the slave).
You’re being ridiculous! My wife isn’t faking it! Wotta hell are you talking about?!
Yeah, I know that some of you are thinking this way right now. But that doesn’t change the fact that your wife is faking it more than genuinely enjoying it!
Ask her. Go on. Ask her. Look her in the eyes and you’ll see that failed attempt of disguising her real reaction and honest answer.
How do you solve this issue? How do you increase the chance of passionate sex with your wife?
- Equilibrium, meaning that chores and errands are not distinguished on men’s and women’s.
- Refraining of those common things we men do such as hugging, spanking and overall drooling every time you see her in panties, naked or after she got under the shower. Particularly when she’s slightly bent over the sink and doing dishes. Yeah, I know it’s the ultimate turn on, especially during the summer and those short skirts, but do control yourself.
- Quality sex, meaning that you’ll make every effort, even if it lasts for an hour or so, to properly turn her on, so she could actually enjoy having sex with you.
This last factor demands a bit detailed explanation because it seems more like a paradox. After all, we claim how women don’t want to have sex with their husbands, so what’s the point of this then?
How many times have you deliberately touched the hot cooking plate or flame for that matter?
The only reason why you don’t do that is because long time ago, your brain added a memory block – touching obvious hot items is not an option!
Where’s the analogy, you ask…
Have you ever been in some restaurant where service sucked to say the least and food you ate made you wonna puke more than anything else?
Still visiting that place and enjoying yourself over there?
It’s yet another memory block. That place sucks hence; we ain’t going there.
Same happens with your wife. Fail once, OK. Fail twice, hmmmm. Fail the third time, it sucks, don’t wanna do this anymore! Because, once is an accident. Second time is excepted from the rule. Third time is the rule. Brain adds a simple memory block – this experience ultimately sucks!
Now you can imagine why she cries if you “went in” against her will once or twice before. It would feel the same like if you’d be forced to touch the hot plate or go eating in that filthy shithole again! No difference, whatsofreakin’ever!!
That’s why we are supposed to be careful lovers before everything else. It’s better to suck it up and smoke a cigarette on the balcony, than to, well, rape her.
Should you make the trouble about it?
Sure, every once in a while, until you reach the balance (resonance in thinking and acting), slam that door and make her think will you jump on some other women.
But don’t make a habit out of it. Once is quite enough to be honest because you’ll nag about it 24/7 anyway. So why causing any more distress at her?
However, there’s one method you can utilize, which will deliver results, without any doubt.